THE MOTHERLY FATHERLESS AND THE FATHERLY MOTHERLESS By Femi A. Falade

THE MOTHERLY FATHERLESS AND THE FATHERLY MOTHERLESS 

Dedicated to Close Mentorship Ss & Ds 

By Femi A. Falade

Motherlessness is a sin and fatherlessness is an iniquity

Children with fathers go farther and children with mothers grow morals

Having no father is having no fanner. Fathers are fanners that fan us into flame. 

Having no mother is having no molder. Mothers are molders that mold us into shape.

If you are fatherless, it is your choice because we have fathers everywhere both good and bad. The motherlessness of a child is not a spiritual problem, it is self-wish, mothers who have no children are all over the street. 

As factual as that sounds, it is safe to add that, there are fathers and mothers who are children in themselves and are not ripe to nurture a child. All over the places, we see young believers who have fallen into the hands of fake parents. Men and women whom the Lord has not trained, those who named themselves with Our God but Jesus no them not. We must be careful. 

We need to relax and watch carefully. The choice of spiritual parents has marred many destinies who are unwise in the process of making their choices. Apostle Paul gave caution in 1 Cor. 11:1. He said brothers and sisters, don't do whatever you don't see Christ doing in me. Whatever you see that I have and Christ does not have please don't copy, "IMITATE ME AS I IMITATE CHRIST". 

The implication is simple, if your father/mother in the Lord stops imitating Christ, please stop imitating him or her. Many have fallen victims and many might still fall if they dont allow God's wisdom to guide them. 

Close observation shows that everybody have a spiritual father or mother. Whether spiritually bad or good, fathers and mothers are instrumentals to your success or failure in life. We have them both consciously or unconsciously, directly or indirectly, personally or collectively. 

It is safe brother, to choose your spiritual parent directly and consciously so that you can be accountable. There are many single guys and ladies who just misbehave as they like just because nobody is guiding them. Please help me inform them that, they need a spiritual parent.

Those who think they need no father are motherly inclined and the fatherly inclined believer thinks he needs no mother. The roles of each are different in the growing of a spiritual child. 

I prefer that a believer should have a spiritual parent and not a mentor. Mentoring is part of spiritual parenting but that is not all. Spiritual parents, if fully responsible soon become grandparents and great grandparents, that is the joy. 

God reserved a role for these spiritual parents in that it is when they forsake you that God would by-pass them to do "something special". The bible puts is clearly: When my father and my mother forsake me, Then Jehovah will take me up. Psalms 27:10. 

Friends, we have responsibilities to obey them. The bible says it is right. It is okay. That is why the adoption must be formal. (See Eph. 6:1).

They must guide you in all facets. Gone are those days when spiritual parents are chosen base on fields of interests. That is spiritual limitations. Spiritual parents are not supposed to be Stereotype in composition. They should be able to guide all their children into any field of human endeavours they choose to pursue. Because, your father in the Lord is a pastor is not a ticket to ministry for you sir.

As much as we know we need parents, we must also emphasize that we need responsible parents. Not father by name but by responsbbility. It is better to refuse the invitation of becoming someone's father or mother than to accept it and don't care about them. God will ask you! 

We thank God, the era of spiritual-sugar daddy or mummy has almost gone. As we still hope, let us be careful when your spiritual parent start performing the roles of your potential husband or wife. This is spiritual sugar daddyhood and mummyhood. May God guide us. Amen.

Happy weekend!!!