In Search of the Queen

Understanding God’s dimension and position in search of your spouse

(In Search of the Queen is not a Love Story. It is a biblical and practical teachings on how to locate your life partner and it is in episodes, may you be blessed as you read, amen.)

By Femi Falade

Episode One: Let us Talk to Our Senses

“Look in, look out, shine your eyes and make your choice” ways of getting martially engaged has been proved to be the biggest way of missing it in life. We have also seen people who have built high standards for themselves and claim that “the lines are falling unto them in pleasant places”. Friends, this is not only common to ladies, it is common to guys too. I have once had such a mindset in search of my queen. And because of that mindset, everybody seems unqualified. One day, I looked at a whole campus, where about 60% of the students are female, and said, there is not marry-able lady in this school. Well, the issue is that, I have the wrong mindset painted in a right way.

When a wrong mindset is painted in a right way, the right way is covered with a wrong paint.

Do you know that when a wrong mindset is painted in a right way, the right way is covered with a wrong paint? Of course, you should because that is exactly the experiences of many singles. I am more deliberate on this matter. My target is you- brothers in campus fellowships or what we call “Broo” in those days, sister in those S.U dresses, guys who are called cool guys and those who think they are hard guys or addressed as such, I am writing to those who know how to talk. They believe no lady can be so smart to escape their proposal, they say among their friends, “I will get that girl”.

If you have already proposed to a sister and she has agreed with you or if you have accepted the proposal of a brother congratulations. This Episode will help you have a reconsideration of the step you take, if you have actually taken the right way or not. So, what I want to tell you in this episode is wake up and seeing yourself more than you are. What you are is what God sees you to be. Anything beyond that is tagged pride.

Pride is seeing yourself higher or lesser than God sees you.

I am not asking you to show some kind of proud humility. The bible calls it false humility. It is self-inferiority. It is relegating to your precious heavenly treasures. Yet, don’t see yourself more than what you are.  

Let me also tell you friend, stop searching or waiting. In fact, stop praying as if God is deaf or as if he has not created your spouse.

Prayer is good. But, wait, are you marry-able? How much have you prepare yourself in character and career? Is there a trace of mother-touch or father-touch on your life? Okay wait. Do you know the prerequisites to prayers in search of your spouse? And do you know the perquisite prayer for your preparation? The prerequisite to the prayer “God send me my spouse” is that you position yourself well. I am not talking about your environment, schools or place of work. Its really don’t count and it sometimes count (we shall discuss it latter).

I am talking about your inner positioning and dispositions. Ask yourself if you were to be the man or lady, can you marry yourself? If your answer is no, why then do you want to create problem for your potential spouse. Do you think he or she would be an angel from heaven? Even if he/she is one, can you satisfy him/her with your character which has form rioting habits into your life? That sound too harsh right. Sorry, but the bible told us that you can do thing against the truth but for the truth.

Sister Jane or Brother Sam, bring down that image in your mind! Rather make your opinions known to God and wait to know his final will for you. Once he informs you, agree with him quickly and make up your mind to follow him. That tall brother with six packs, that fair lady with long hair might not be the best for you. That doctor might be the only problem you will have in life if you marry him or her. In fact, that ministry-oriented sister might be your future problem in marriage. Broo, Siss, if you have hear say I hear.

You don’t know the best for you God knows

The perquisite prayer for your preparation should be around “God break me and make me fit for your purpose for my life”. One of the greatest purposes God has in mind for you is that marital project. You must be marry-able at least to some reasonable percentage not really 100 percent (of course, that never exist). The rest matters can be cut down or cut up during your courtship. You must not miss it!

(The next Episodes will show you how to create a good marital story, plan a marital project and walk into your glorious marital destiny. While others will show you the favour factor, the searching GPS, the proposal, the times and seasons, and so on).

I know you are blessed by this. Glory to Jesus.

You can write me through:

Femlex1@gmail.com/08067342381

Femi Falade