3 REASONS WE WILL NOT MARRY NOW! (The Voices of Young Men and Women) By Femi A. Falade

3 REASONS WE WILL NOT MARRY NOW!

(The Voices of Young Men and Women)

All Parents must Read this!

By Femi A. Falade

There is a Sycamore tree for every short Zacchaeus to see Jesus

We know one of the key reasons you are attending all the family and friends’ children wedding celebrations is because of us. We know you are counting on our ages. We are aware of what you have dreamt of and what you have been praying about. Your prayers are answered and we are not ready to graduate you to another stage of post-marital prayer ministries by making the wrong choice. Sincerely, your prayers have been answered and we just have three reasons left why we are not marrying now.

1. WE HAVE SEEN OUR FUTURE PARTNER BUT WE HAVE NOT SEEN OUR PURPOSE PARTNER

My conversation with Pastor Olawade David Masterpiece made me have an undisputable agreement and conclusion on what I have been pounding on for long. We are familiar with the term future partner, but are not too close with the term purpose partner. In fact, future partner is not real, purpose partner is. Anybody can be your future partner. So, it is not enough to look for one, instead, look for a purpose partner who understands your purpose in life and is ready to give his/her support for the actualization of that purpose. 

We are sorry, our searchlights are still on, we need more than a future partner; we need a purpose partner because that is what we live for. We are not ready for Holy matrimony with unholy combination; we are still looking for the part of us that is looking for us. 

2. WE CANNOT GUARANTEE THEIR PRESENT CHARACTER FOR OUR DREAMED HOME

Sister Jennifer, what we carry is not what you have seen, you have not seen them, if you see them your heart would melt. How do we guarantee that you will last with us? How do you want us to trust that we shall not regret our decision to call you into our homes? How do you think this kind of character can build the kind of structure our future homes is made up of? We are purpose driven men, we need more than this!

Mummy, we are not ready to put ourselves in trouble. Daddy, help us ask brother James, “now that you make us a punching bag and we have not stand before witness to say "I do" how many punches of blows will be our reward after marrying you?”. Sister Jane, you are not humble now and you are always right in all things. Sir, we are afraid if our wives would be correctible and teachable. We are sorry Bro. Sam, we can’t guarantee your present character for our dreamed home with this “zero minus 100 care-ttitude” you display always as if you are the only busy man in the world. 

If as at now, you are stingy and not friendly, how do you think we shall have an isolated family when we are not the first creation. Am sorry, we cannot marry now, we cannot see the homes we have prayed for in these people.  

3. WE NEED TO PUT OTHER THINGS TOGETHER

Sir, ma, we know what the future holds for us and what our generation is expecting from us, we need to put other things in place. We can’t jump this fence. We cannot pretend all is well. There are other things we need to put in place. We know our children will soon come after we marry and they must not meet this attitude of ours, we want to work on them first. 

We know our time and attention will be divided and our focus on purpose will be distracted, so we need to set a balance now. We know that, the demands will be multiplied, so we need to invest more now. We know that the evil days attached with adulthood would come, we need to settle things on our spiritual altars now. 

We know that we will receive a lot of visitors so, we need to put our houses in order now. We are sorry if we are disappointing you, it is because of this purpose we carry, we can’t just go with Delilah, we can’t just bring her to you and keep you expectant. We can’t just print the wedding invitations as if we are blind to these purposes.  

Daddy, mummy, we are sorry, that man is still a baby. Uncle forgives us, that lady is old but she is not mature in spiritual matters, we can’t bring her now. We just need to hold our peace and stand still and see the salvation of the Lord.

OUR DECISION  

We are not saying we won’t marry. We are not also saying that, brother Sam cannot change. Mummy, we believe Sister Loveth can change, we believe there is a Sycamore tree for every short Zacchaeus to see Jesus. We know we need patience and endurance. Daddy, we also need your understanding. We know we are 27 and the brother is not yet serious, we cannot pretend about it. Wait, please! We shall send for you as soon as we see our glorious future clear and attainable with him. Whether they change or we change them, we will get back to you!

LESSON FOR SINGLES

...“And beside this, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue; and to virtue knowledge; And to knowledge temperance; and to temperance patience; and to patience godliness; And to godliness brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness charity. For if these things be in you, and abound, they make you that ye shall neither be barren nor unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. But he that lacketh these things is blind, and cannot see afar off, and hath forgotten that he was purged from his old sins”…... 2Pet. 1:5-9

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