Money Cost: Planning a Marital Project (Episode 3, Part 4) In Search of the Queen Understanding God’s Dimension and Position in Search of Your Spouse Femi A. Falade

Money Cost: Planning a Marital Project (Episode 3, Part 4)

In Search of the Queen 

Understanding God’s Dimension and Position in Search of Your Spouse

Femi A. Falade

During a conversation with one of my brother and son in the faith who came on visit last week, I told him, Bro., don’t marry a poor lady! He looked at me with questions all over his face. I knew he had another thing in mind so I told him, a poor lady is known by her inner dispositions. Whether or not, your inner disposition is a serious factor if we shall consider you as a potential rich fellow. However, whether you inner disposition is wealthy or not, you must know that, in search of your queen or in expectant or search of your king, money cost is very paramount. Factually, ladies don’t like a promiser. They want practical care, so if you cannot care for a lady, please wait a little further. 

Courtship on its own is very expensive. It is more demanding than marriage. Money cost has formed several maladies in our societies as far as the matter of courtship is concerned. Brother king (It is you, put your name there), that sister that says she understands you and always saying “all is well, I understands” will soon show you her “red colour” if you continue promising her. 

MONEY AND MONEY MATTER

Money matter has seen the end of many courtships. Many potential couples have broken-up with their “poor spouse” and for ladies, to follow that “red made man” with a “red made problem” anyway. Many are still planning to get a “better” guy as they call it and thus using the brother as a forerunner. Every sister out there is looking for a “better offer” as they use to refer to them. Welcome to a generation of ladies that knows only the merry part of a courtship. Somebody once said, if your problem is how to spend money look for a lady. I am not saying all ladies are the same am only saying, generally, women by nature are more demanding.  What money will cause, even, money itself would not be able handle it.

However, ……“let me introduce you to the fool called money. What is money? We were taught from our secondary school that money is something generally accepted as a medium of exchange, a measure of value, or a means of payment. I also remember that we were told that we have paper money, coins and so on. The money we talk here is a bit different spiritually. It is a living thing but not a human being. It can smell, hear, speak, move and respond to demands. Many people are control by it and many are its slaves. People who are controlled by money are more foolish than it, because money is a fool that answers all things. 

God’s word shows us that, a feast is made for laughter, and wine maketh merry: but money answereth all things, (See Eccl. 10:19). This is simple. The specific purpose of a feast is to make people laugh. When a feast does not make people happy it has worked contrary to its aim. At the same time, the purpose of drinking wine is to make a heart merry and if it does not do that, there is no point drinking one. But, you see, money is purposeless and it does not have a specific demand or requirement. It answers all things, even if the devil calls it, it would answer, if it is an infant that calls it, it would answer, even if it a thing that calls it, it would answer. Anything goes for money. Money can be enslaved by ordinary time or season. It can be enslaved by animals; money can be used by a blind or a lame man.  A fly can, in fact, send money on errands. It is a fool and responds to only wise people”…. (Extracted from the Book: DON’T DIE POOR: A CLARION CALL INTO FINANCIAL PROSPERITY FOR ALL CHRISTIANS by FEMI A. FALADE).

TO BROTHER KING

I will like to inform you oh brother that, you cannot be meeting every time in the church and you cannot call a marathon fasting on her birthday. She would want to tell you all the gist of the day and the network provider would not give you bonus for that. If you must invest into her, you would also need money to procure some materials and take her on some leadership seminars, singles seminar and so on. I can continue to count for you, they are innumerable. There are visible and invisible money cost in this process of courtship. This also covers for Mobile Cost, Material Cost and cost of Bad Debt which are part of this episode.

TO SISTER QUEEN

Sister queen don’t be too happy that I have spoken in your favour only but also because you have financial duties too. Even if he has multi-billion dollars investment, you must still call him too and show some care which would cost you money. You say you don’t like his pimpled face, buy him a sample of that tube and see if he would not appreciate it. I also know that any lady who knows her worth would not be the “asker” and the “demander” of the courtship. It is true you need those things, but who is responsible for them before? Parents who place demands on their daughter’s spouse during courtship are only advertising their daughter as a promo. Outings are wonderful, yet must it be every weekend? 

FINAL ADVICE

Brother king sir, if that lady don’t discuss with you on how to safe and plan your glorious future with you, am sorry you have just encounter a eating locust, run for your life. Let me say again and again courtship is costly, plan for it so that you will not be disappointed. It is for responsible men and women.

Part 5 in this Episode is Spiritual Cost

Happy Sunday.