In Search of the QueenUnderstanding God’s dimension and position in search of your spouse
Episode Two: My Marital Story? Huh!
As if the past is not part of our lives, many young brothers and sisters can be so conscious of their past than their future. I have once said in one of my quotes that:
appreciating the past is wasting your present
I say again,
condemning the past is blackmailing the futurethose who cherish their past are bound to perish their futureThese facts inform us that God want to use this episode- your marital story- to give you victory over your socking concerns. Now that the sister told you she is not a virgin, you are praying one more time to check if you have not missed your way. Because you heard that the brother has a terrible past, you told him that you should suspend your relationship for now, that you need to hear God more clearly about him again and again. It is well.
It is fine to desire a virgin especially if you are one. I encourage that for all singles. Keep yourself virgin, undefiled, it has a glory, it has an honour, it has a blessing. Believe me, you will be forever cherished by your spouse. Try also to save a story of greatness and of good report of your life especially when you are still in the making. Don’t look at your neighbours or your elder sister who, after wasting away their treasures, still struggle to marry a pastor. It doesn’t work that way. It is not automatic. It is not a calculation. It is not a prediction. If you waste away your past you have jeopardize your future.
But now that the foundation has been destroyed, will you kill yourself? Isn’t the past the pathway to the present and most times, the pathway is usually rough. Wait again, this is not automatic, I emphasized. It can be avoided forever. So, you can still come out of the past with first class virginity. I hope you know that there are some people who still guess they are virgins. They are not sure. Sometimes, somewhere, somehow, something has gone wrong.
What do we call the past? A life of yesterday? No. A time you have lived before you met Jesus. If you have not meet Jesus, you are missing out and you shall soon pack out because the devil has a target over your life and marital destiny. Your past is simply your life before Jesus met you. If you are born-again and you are still finding pleasures in sin and selling your treasures for as cheap as zero quality, you will give account, (See Heb. 13:3, 1Cor. 6:19-20). Repent now and God will grant you grace to live a decent and undefiled life for Him.
I can tell you emphatically, no life outside Jesus is sinless. Let it be religious. Cover your head to your toes, don’t shake hands with opposite sex or even at all, don’t have opposite sex as friends, don’t talk to opposite sex at all, don’t go out except to church or mosque, hear, without receiving the life of Jesus and be regenerated, you cannot still live a life of purity. You are as dirty as dirt itself. So, all those past are fake, lifeless and nonsense. It is safe to establish that, no past without Jesus is beautiful. They are all bundles of heresies and heresies continually until you come to Jesus.
How worse is your past that you think there is no moving forward? The past has perished, your past has also perished with it, if you, therefore, allow it to continue to be injury to you, you will continue to enjoy the pains.
The days of the past are days of ignorance, God overlooks them, (See Act 17:30). Your marital story might be worse off. It should form your testimony and not a source of pain and condemnation for you. This is demonic deceit. Your story should teach others about getting it more right not contributing to your soberness.
I have met many people who share their past with me and after they shared it, I tell them, I am not interested in that, because it has gone, let us deal with the future. If you are in a courtship and you have a terrible marital story that you are afraid to share with your spouse, please pray about it. Pray for wisdom and Holy Spirit direction and follow what he tells you. You can also inform your parent in the faith or the courtship-parent or counselors. If your past is the kind that has destroyed your future in advance, you need a counselor and serious prayer than ordinary. For example, you have aborted and it has cost you your womb and now that you are rightfully engaged, you are afraid of bareness. Or any case of such, please don’t joke about it.
Well noted. Again, I want you to know that if the guy or lady says he cannot go with you again, please note the following about him/her. This case is exceptional anyway, especially when that past has nothing to do with your future or that of the potential family. He/She is immature who does not understand the irremovable and irresolvable nature of the past. He/She does not love you. He/She does not have a strong conviction about you. He/She is not rooted enough in God’s truth. You can as well help such in prayer and bring him/her to a place of illumination in God’s present.
Pastor Femi James, the founder of World Youth Christian Movement (WYMC) shared about three instances with us in a house fellowship. He told us how he ministered to young ladies who have their virginity restored before marriage and their testimony was true and verified. In fact, one of them was raped. God is still at work friend. He is still an expert in doing the impossible.
Your past is not important, the present is. Your past is not relevant, your future is. Live to please God. Live to secure a great future for yourself.
You will need to drop all the inherited habit and character of the past so that you don’t continue to live in the past. You will need to live beyond these experiences. You will need to pray your way out of them. You will need to rub minds with God in His word for a brand new marital story written from God’s table with His pen.
You are blessed and blessed forever.Your Friend,Femi Falade A.Femlex1@gmail.com08067342381
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