Episodes Three, Part One: Planning a Marital Project: The Cost of Courtship

In Search of the Queen

Understanding God’s dimension and position in search of your spouse

By Femi Falade

Episodes Three, Part One: Planning a Marital Project: The Cost of Courtship

The cost of a thing determines its worth. One of my fathers in the Lord told me of how he preached a message on the topic “the Mathematics of God”. No doubt and very clear from the scriptures, God is a mathematician. I have once written an article titled God’s Business Partner which is now a chapter inside one of my unpublished books entitled, “Steam of Spiritual Service”. In the view and content of that book, I discussed the way God transact business with Man at the Garden of Eden, how he built an Organisation, how He employed the Managing Director and how God deposit another priceless payment to recover His business venture from the fraudster and has continue to reap profits up till date.

God is very mindful of cost and benefits, but most importantly and especially the cost. The cost of everything that exists is known and paid by God. Why do you think God never start a project without completing it? He had a solid plan of the cost of course! In fact, the bible told us how we can express our confidence in Him, that if He began any good work, he will accomplish it until the end, (See Phil. 1:6). This is the same question God pose to us on this table.

"Is there anyone here who, planning to build a new house, doesn't first sit down and figure the cost so you'll know if you can complete it?... Luke 14:28ff. The Message

This question is directional and instructional. The question is asked about anyone among us since among them (God the Father, Son and the Holy Spirit) the case is settled. Among us men, we see all kinds of funny things. Cost consideration was taken as simple as nothing. Words like “it does not matter” are common and very close to our mouths.  May God help us. Amen.

I have seen people who entered into courtship hastily and come out hastily. Why? They met different price quotation different from what they budgeted. Why am I raising matter of such, I feel it is very important that we check from where we are right now; to check our cost list.

I want to give a cost list and discuss them in the next episodes. Yet, I feel I should share this truth with you. No lady or guy can be perfectly suit for you, you must make Him/her want you want her to be through God’s prepared help, even from the scriptures. Hear me again, no courtship is all day fun. No one go into courtship without a simply and humble spirit ever succeeded. I once had a discussion with a brother about this. He told me, trying to validate it without a scriptural backing, that, if God say someone is your wife or husband, he or she will surely stay no matter what you do or who and what you are and no matter what is happening to you or the fellow. I told him that, indeed, God don’t change, but God’s will as it were, can run off if you don’t accommodate him or her. In fact, your character, habit, attitude, position, or life in general can chase them away.   

The Living Bible put the verse 28 of Luke 14 this way:

But don’t begin until you count the cost….

Don’t begin until you count the cost. I say again, don’t begin until you count the cost, I say again and again, don’t begin until you count the cost. You know why? Jesus gave us details about this. 

Otherwise he (you) might complete only the foundation before running out of funds. And then how everyone would laugh! “‘See that fellow there?’ they would mock. ‘He started that building and ran out of money before it was finished!’

May you never be mocked out of your marital destiny in Jesus name. Amen. Hear how the message Bible put is again:

If you only get the foundation laid and then run out of money, you're going to look pretty foolish. Everyone passing by will poke fun at you: 'He started something he couldn't finish.'

I saw a word that reads foolish, can you see it too? It means it is a demonstration of foolishness that makes people go into a crucial project like marital without counting the cost.

Let me give the list and then we pick them one after the other or jointly as God give us grace from the next episode.

The List:

Agreement Cost

Time Cost

Money Cost

Mobile Cost

Material Cost

Spiritual Cost

Cost of Bad Dept

Cost of Loss

Cost of Self Denial

Cost of Pains

Medical Cost

Majority Cost

Minority Cost 

Other Costs.

These lists shall be discussed in the next episodes. 

Still Blessed, Stay Blessed,

Your Friend,

Femi Falade A.

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